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Li Ann

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« on: August 08, 2006, 07:09:00 pm »
Ok, well, I got over my fear of being rejected and sent the guy I\'m interested in a little note online. He responded, and he was really nice and sweet. He seems very intelligent and thoughtful...he has a lot of potential.

The problem is, he smokes and does pot. We had a little conversation about smoking, and he told me to never ever pick up a cigarette like he did when he was younger. Apparently, he\'s tried to quit a few times, but he wasn\'t successful.

I don\'t smoke myself, in fact I have never even tried it and don\'t want to. None of my friends are smokers, so I was wondering what you guys think of smokers. My friends, a few of them now ex-smokers, think of smoking as a sign of weakness, and disrespect to your own body. Basically, it\'s bad. Bleh.

Any thoughts on this? Should I keep pursuing him in the hopes of us hooking up, or should I just cross him off as \"bad news\"?
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« Reply #1 on: August 08, 2006, 07:14:00 pm »
2.99, mate

wtf
cross him off cos he smokes??
like you said
he\'s tryin ta quit [or tried]
you should respect him for that
and he told you not to
because he knows its not a good thing
maybe if you guyz hooked up
he\'d have the motivation to quit

basiclaly wot i\'m sayin is...
don\'t label all smokers as bad guyz...
hey, i smoke too... sumtimes.
am i a bad guy?
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« Reply #2 on: August 08, 2006, 07:34:00 pm »
I\'d have to really REALLY like the person. I can\'t stand smoking so for most girls...yes, that would be a cross off.
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« Reply #3 on: August 08, 2006, 09:02:00 pm »
how can you cross someone off just because he smokes??? does that make him evil??
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« Reply #4 on: August 08, 2006, 09:45:00 pm »
I\'m kind of divided on this.

Honestly, I can\'t stand girls who smoke, so I don\'t smoke myself.

It\'s degrading, and girls who smoke, and guys who smoke, to me, are weak individuals.

Sure, he sees the bad in it, but he honestly won\'t be able to quit, unless he really, really, really, tries hard.

As far as the pot thing, if he does it on a regular basis, I would not continue to talk to him. Pot isn\'t addictive, so he should have no excuse.

Weak minded. That\'s all I have to say. You can\'t change a person who smokes. They have to do it on their own. My ex gf claimed she was going to quit for me, never did. Picked up a cigarette every time she get even the slightest bit upset.

[Edited by nutbar on 08-08-2001 at 06:48 PM]
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« Reply #5 on: August 08, 2006, 11:10:00 pm »
I really have no clue on what you should do.  HmMmMmm... if you go out with him, maybe you could get him ta quit.. I dunno.
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« Reply #6 on: August 09, 2006, 12:00:00 am »
smoking cigarettes will stop, he has tryed to quit, he will succeed in the future..

everyone smokes pot in high school... he\'ll quit when he\'s older
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« Reply #7 on: August 09, 2006, 04:57:00 am »
Well if you don\'t want to go out with a smoker, then I\'m warning you that you\'re not going to be able to make him stop.  He has to stop himself.  And then again, I have a friend who has been trying to quit for 4 years or so.

Please don\'t assume he\'ll give up for you.  Most smokers say that they will give up, but end up doing so.

If you don\'t mind him smoking, then keep pursuing him.

He can give up the marijuana at any time.  It\'s the cigarettes that will be hard to give up.
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« Reply #8 on: August 09, 2006, 10:14:00 am »
tough call.  my ex smoked and did pot, both of which i don\'t do.  he told me numerous times that he\'d quit both, but never did.  could you handle dating someone who smokes?  as long as the pot isn\'t a major part of his life, that may not be a problem

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« Reply #9 on: August 09, 2006, 10:30:00 am »
Stop pursuing Towelie. All Towelie wants to do is get high!
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« Reply #10 on: August 09, 2006, 03:53:00 pm »
I don\'t want to date him in hopes of changing him. I just want to date a guy I can accept...flaws and all. And I guess I don\'t know whether I could accept his smoking.

I\'d have to contend with the fact that he is slowly killing his body and shortening his life span. And that he is disrespecting himself and others around him while smoking.  He\'s not a bad or evil person, I never said that.  I like everything about him...he seems like a very good match for me...EXCEPT for the smoking and the pot...

So I think I\'ll keep on pursuing him...and I guess we\'ll see where this goes. Then I\'ll at least have more experience in whom I\'ve dated...I\'ve dated someone who wasn\'t up to par with me intellectually, and that didn\'t work out...now I guess I\'ll see if I can put up with smoking...?

*sigh*
I hope this works out. Thanks for your input guys....
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« Reply #11 on: August 10, 2006, 08:31:00 pm »
smoking is such a turn off...espescially if you can smell it on em or see the staining teeeh.
im sorry...i dont wanna be with sumone who might end up sounding like barry white...especially women who kill their voices.
i know two marvelous singers that are killin their talent...
for what?  nothing important.
if he can and will try to quit...he\'s good...but pot is another story.  that stuff\'ll mess ya up.  it kinda becomes more important that everything else.
not everyone smoked pot in high school...thats bullshit...only the people who have little self respect and about an ounce of will power smoked weed.

either help him kick the bad habits, or live with someone who doesnt care enough about himself fou you.
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« Reply #12 on: August 10, 2006, 09:02:00 pm »
I smoke weed.does that make me bad???I am a super talented artist,most people who smoke pot are generally more laid back then those that don\'t smoking pot is actually less dangerous then cigarettes,I do it for relaxation,if ya dig it do it if not thats your flavor peace sister
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« Reply #13 on: August 08, 2006, 07:45:00 pm »
the guy i like smokes pot and i don\'t. i like him a lot though and im willing to oversee it as long as it isnt too much. i think it has to do with how much you like this person and if its enough to not let it bother you.
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« Reply #14 on: August 14, 2006, 08:54:00 am »
First off...I smoke weed not pot.  Pot is a term my parent\'s use, it\'s embarrassing.  Weed does not make people bad,  I smoke weed every day of the summer and I smoke on every weekend during school.  I still maintain a 3.0 or higher and I am a starting lineman for my school\'s championship football team.  There\'s nothing wrong with weed.  It\'s just a thing some-people do to have fun during the day instead of doing other hobbies.  So don\'t ever cut off a guy who smokes weed.  It\'d be like Martha Washington dumping George because he smoked...which he did.  So to end this all.  Stoners are probably the nicest most laid back people in the world so be nice to them and don\'t make sudden jerky movements as it confuses us.
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