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Ok, so there\'s this girl i\'m really digging righ tnow. We both like each other, and woulod like to start dating soon, but she wants to get over her ex of 2 1/2 years. I think that\'s cool, I can wait. I\'m almost positive that it iwll be a long term relationship. The thing that I am worried about is her sexual experience. She\'s only had sex with 1 guy, but they quite a few things that I haven\'t even done, mostly bondage. I\'m worried that if we date and things go that far, her reaction to me not liking bondage. Also, she mentioned a story about a guy who once showed her his penis, and she laughed because it was 2\' unerect. That is the same size I am unerect, but when erect it is average size, but it still worries me. I\'m afraid that if I do start a relationship with her, it will just end up sexual. I\'m not a big fan of sex, it\'s OK, but not the greatest thing. Any advice world?

Really if a girl really loves you she won\'t do that. Listen up, you can\'t change what you are or how long it is, it\'s as senceless as girls who are worried over their breasts.
You shouldn\'t worry about it at all. Let her laugh, you stand for what you are, and if someone isn\'t satisfied sexually with what you are it isn\'t worth your time. You know your problem isn\'t your size , it\'s your way how you deal with it. You should go for GOLD no matter if she is satesfied with it or not. It\'s literlly MAKING LOVE, besides did you know that if you are good in eating a girl out that it WAY compensates the size. Girls don\'t feel a lot anyway when having sex, only if you stimulate the clit or g-spot, and that doesn\'t happen most of the time when entering her body. So dont worry if she isn\'t happy with your size, give yourself some breakfast and tour thru her jungle like she never experienced before.

I Just Don\'t Understand What People Like About S&M   [This message has been edited by Neysan (edited 12-11-2001).]

ah i understand... because of her past, you feel that\'s real important to her (and therefore her sexual tastes), and you\'re worried if it goes that far, your tastes aren\'t the same ~ will it doom your impending relationship?
It\'s actually a very fair and legitimate question.  \"Well, if she\'s so into this, and I\'m not ~ will she start having sex with others to get this?\"  VERY FAIR and understandable question.
Well....  *sigh* I don\'t know the answer for you on this one.  The only way to find out is to get involved with her, have that relatioship. and see.  If she truly cares about you ~ then it won\'t matter ~ she\'ll take you as is... remember that.  If she truly doesn\'t care about you ~ then all of the above concerns become a potential reality (that she may cheat on you to satisfy her tastes in sex).  But you can\'t worry about that now ~ you\'re not even dating yet.. so you\'re jumping the gun WAY AHEAD of time.
The above questions could come into play at some point ~ they may not.  The best that you can do is follow your heart and take your best shot at whatever you feel is the best decision for you and not let this bother you.  Deal with it if it happens to become a factor ~ until then... don\'t worry about it.
About the 2\" laughing thing ~ she\'s new to guys so therefore she probably doens\'t understand that erect, all guys fall within a small range of each other and are all mostly the same.  So she\'s not as educated as she might think about it.  so don\'t worry about the laughing thing.  Chances are... if you two lead up to sex and are folling around prior to it ~ you won\'t be soft by the time she sees you anyway....
Good luck to you and I hope it works out.  Just take it easy and don\'t worry about such things for now.  Deal with it when you cross it and if it becomes an issue.  Until then.. just enjoy her and spending time and we\'ll see where it leads.. okay?
Take care.
Richie