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Canonet

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« on: September 04, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Read your post SSS and what in the world could you have with a man twice your age? If I were forty six, could not have too much in common with a 23 yr old. All you were to him was that 23 yr old sex thing. Gave you dinner and he felt it was time for you to pay up. Your story goes to show dating white men does not always give sisters any better treatment.    Glad you gave the brothers a chance.  :-)Why did you want to date him anyway?
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sweetstikythang

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« Reply #1 on: September 04, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Canonet:Oh My God!!  Larger than your car...HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA......that must have been a KODAK moment!  You\'re right, what Stray did does make him a racist in a way...and I am sure he was going on what he heard growing up.  Kind of sad.You know he called me for like 2 months after that and I never answerd his messages and he didn\'t get the hint until about 2 months later!He called me every nite like clock work at 11:30PM---he knew  what time I got home from work.\"Clean Up Woman\" just came on the radio..........Oh, where was I??Oh, yeah---he used to even say on his messages \"Hey sexy black woman, pick up the phone--it\'s your knight in horny armor\"EEEEEEEwwwwwwwwww.sweetstikythang
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« Reply #2 on: September 06, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
To Philnation:  Your comment is right on the $$$$$, money, dinero, etc!  I couldn\'t have said it better.  I don\'t know this person Osiris---I am new to this board, but I had the unfortunate displeasure of reading past posts from this person....all I\'ve got to say is pretty sad.  Hey thanks for the comment....I needed that!*********************************Osiris:Grow Up & then come back and talk to me.sweetstikythang
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Gianne

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« Reply #3 on: September 06, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Sweet, it\'s too bad you had that experience, you\'re married now, so it all worked out. You\'re right that people GROW UP with different perceptions. I dated a white man for six months once, guess why we broke up? Because I was black. Pick something I might have tried to hide! He still wanted to call in the middle of the night until I told him to lose my number. Anyway, I\'m attracted to men of all races. I\'ve dated other men who weren\'t like this. White men who weren\'t just about sex. By the way, he COULD have been your father. People seem to forget that biracial people come in all shapes, sizes, and COLORS. Sometimes we\'re light, sometimes we\'re dark.
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Canonet

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« Reply #4 on: September 07, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Gianne,   I agree not all white men are not as you and SSS described but I\'m sure a high number of them think of Black women as creatures, not people, who are ready for sex whenever.    I think Black men see white women in the same light as well.   I bet you went through a high number of white guys Gianne before you found one even 1/2 way suitable becuase of stereotypical beliefs. What do you say?
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Canonet

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« Reply #5 on: September 07, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Philnation,     I Read your post and all I\'m asking of her is how many white guys did she meet, regardless of who appraoched whom, seemed datable to her but were unsuitable.  That;s all. I\'m guessing it\'s a high number of men. Just saying many play into that sex fantasy before they hook up with their white fiance to live happily everafter. Just wanting the experience with Black women for bragging rights.
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« Reply #6 on: September 07, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
canonet, and like you said black men are the same way, SOME of them, not all...men are men and women are women, not matter what the race - it\'s as basic as that!i do know, however, that there are GOOD black men out there and one is waiting for me somewhere....JAH provides:-)it\'s definitely a numbers game!
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Gianne

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« Reply #7 on: September 07, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
That\'s not really a cut and dry question. Before I reached 21, parents of the guys were the problem. There wasn\'t a chance to see what they were after. Four of the last 6 white men I dated didn\'t have my best interests at heart, but they were easily weeded out. So yes, you\'re right in that assumption. I don\'t mean to male bash, but that just seems to be the nature of the beast. There\'s a lot of men who don\'t have a woman\'s interest at heart, lots that just want sex, just like there\'s a lot of women who don\'t have a man\'s interest at heart, they want money. I didn\'t chalk it up to the fact that they were white, I concluded that they were men who weren\'t ready for a committed relationship.
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Canonet

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« Reply #8 on: September 08, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Gianne   Read your post and the numbers you gave about white men suitable were what I expected.  The numbers are with any man I figure. Tell me this, why do some sisters put a premium on relationships with white men? I know many Black men put a premium , as well, on white women. Brothers do it because of bragging rights. What about sisters?
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Gianne

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« Reply #9 on: September 08, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
I don\'t know that I put a premium on a relationship with a white man, I\'ve dated A LOT more black men. My numbers are pretty high because I\'ll move on rather than stay with anyone so I\'m not \"alone.\" I\'ve posted this before, and I\'m almost afraid to do so again, for fear of another history lesson, but here it goes. When I was 13 I had a HUGE crush on a guy (black). Fine didn\'t describe him. He was 16 and so fine that he was dating college women, well given that he wasn\'t going to give me a second look, I know that now. Someone very close to me (adult) broke it down: any black man worth having wants a white woman, and a white man will never want you. For a while I had a history of relationships with real losers (black). Then I realized I  was fulfilling the prophecy. I made up my mind that I could date men who were worth something, black or white. It was meant as well meaning advice, it was not. But maybe other people have heard those words directly or subliminally. I am not turned off by black men at all. They are completely sexy, seductive, luscious, intelligent, ok, let me stop now. So I\'d proudly be on the arm of a black man as well as a white one. I\'m protective of my IR because I take so much heat over it, that\'s never been a problem with relationships I have with men of the same race.
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« Reply #10 on: September 15, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Slasher:  Hello and nice to hear from someone who thinks that AZ is a wild, wild place!I lived in Scottsdale for 3 months while I attended a seminar and did freight inspections temporarily.  My experience as a black sista, was ACTION!!I got a lot of love action from WHITE men about 90% of the time that I was there.  I declined all the offers because at that time, I wanted to be with a handsome brotha, and this was also the period after the \"Tony Roma\'s\" experience with my first IR date (posted above).None of the black men even gave me a second glance!  I remember one evening when I sat next to this fine brotha who was smelling so good.....HMMMM HMMMMM....anyway, I aksed him what the name of his cologne was and that he smelled very aluring...I didn\'t say it in a provocative, sexy way, I just said it.  Well, apparently a WHITE lady sitting behind me heard me and she agreed with me!  He turned around to her, and told her that it was DRAKAR, and that he bought it from Nordstrom\'s the same day, and how he never wears cologne unless he dresses up, etc....they talked before and after the seminar, and he totally ignored me and never even acknowledged that I asked the question!  ....I thought \"I know I\'ve got my certs so it\'s not my breath\"...I was looking good that night to...HE DRIED ME OUT!That was the first night of the seminar.  I knew then that I had a long way to go and apparently a short time to get there!  So after the seminars & inspections were over, I went back to my Hotel Room, ordered Chinese and read a Stephen King Novel.
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« Reply #11 on: September 15, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
MyMy:Your experience was awful! Have you since checked hind sight?  Did you see it coming, or do you see anything that you should\'ve noticed then that you didin\'t??At least there was no love lost between my date and your experience.  I know that must have been awful to feel like you\'re in love with someone and then they go and drop the atomic bomb on you!I agree with the board, your friend was NO FRIEND!  She adds footage to the saying WITH FRIENDS LIKE THAT, WHO NEEDS ENEMYS?Hope all is better with you this time!sweet
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Canonet

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« Reply #12 on: September 16, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Say Roslyn,   I knew it would be a matter of time before I would invoke your wrath.     When I wrote what I did here, I still back up. My opinion was you backed up blackness but defended your dating white men. Yes, I remember earlier you posted no black men ever asked you out.  Hence my saying you never dated black men. They might\'ve changed when you\'re with your fiance  NOW. Have you ever thought you might\'ve caught the attention of a black guy when you\'re around town but when your white mate catches up, hug, or touches your shoulder, the brother many say, \'oh no not her. Nevermind.\'? It happens. All I did was reflect on my past opinion on your postings. You only came to memory when this discussion went further along.        St Johns wort will not help. I do not believe in holistic medicines because of no hard clinical studies of it being effective. Show me some JAMA, Johns Hopkins or FDA research and I may consider. Maybe I do have issues and another poster reflected on them as well. Does it mean we need St Johns wort to help ourselves? Nope.Do you think all black men who wonder why sisters will not date black men who are \'too nice\' or \'nerdy\' and pick only grungy white guys have issues?  Maybe the sisters have them as well. Address that. We make observations and talk about it in forums like this.    Gianne:     Sorry  for jumping on your back here. Only said many folks are influenced bt what they see in the media. All types of folks buy  into that. They should get out of the house and see the world outside of theirs. What\'s on TV, etc is not all true.
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« Reply #13 on: September 16, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
As I said Canonet, the post of yours that made me think you were possibly suffering from depression had nothing to do with IRs. It was probably about 18 months ago and you posted a letter you\'d written to a woman I think you were rejecting some woman for not being supportive enough.  I didn\'t say anything about Slasher\'s post because he didn\'t lie on me, you did.  As I said, I have no intention of resuming arguments with anti-IRs on this forum. Colossal waste of time.  I only returned to clear my name from your slander, that\'s all.Canonet said:  \"You wondered why black men were not interested? Perhaps it was you...\"Gee dude, how much insight did it take to figure that one out considering I\'ve been saying the same thing for years?  Perhaps you misunderstood, but I\'m pretty sure I\'ve said plenty of times that the black men I met weren\'t attracted to me. I certainly didn\'t fault them, folks can\'t help who they\'re attracted to.  I don\'t pull any punches, especially not with myself. I\'ve never blamed black men for not liking me.  Couldn\'t change their behavior, only my own.  
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Canonet

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« Reply #14 on: September 17, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Roslyn,    This is the end and I\'m letting it pass. Why did you suggest St Johns Wort as an anit-depressant?  Told you why I\'m against it. I cannot remember what I wrote 18, or so, months ago here. Had so much going on since then. I only ask people about IRs because most I have noticed have been flings or artificial to prove a point. My main gripe.  People which claim they only like white guys/ladies, or any other type of variety (we\'re all one race) exclusively, maybe they have some issues they refuse to deal with. Talk to them.    You or others here can blast me with words if you wish. Only words. Can\'t hurt me. Life still goes on. My final words on this subject.    
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