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The Insane Doctor Nasty

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« on: September 17, 2001, 05:36:00 pm »
Canonet
   
Why cheat yoself? That other ****  isn\'t working for you, you may as well enjoy the wonderful gift that mother nature has provided for us! You see I\'m just shopping right now for the proper mate and that\'s OK. Because I\'m evolving right now!!! You should evolve in the other direction, get yo ***  on fo a minute!!!
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lyonel

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« Reply #1 on: September 20, 2001, 03:23:00 am »
I know the reason why I am still single. It\'s because I haven\'t found a woman yet, who\'s mind I\'ve fallen in love with.
I\'ve met lots of women who had it all together in terms of educational background and doing things for themselves in corporate America.
But when it comes to having what it takes to be a suitable wife, their actions told me that they weren\'t!!!
I also keep encoutering women who had been in bad relationship with black men. So when they see me and find out that I\'m single. They tell themselves that I\'m too good to be true!!Or they think that I\'m playing a game and who I am will change a few years down the line.
My whole attitude is not to waste time with bitter women, clueless women,too \"Independent\" to serve their mate type of women.
Every day a woman turns 21, so NEXT!!!!
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MzSheel

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« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2001, 10:47:00 am »
quote:Originally posted by Ms HeartBeat:
Excellent replies from all the fellas.  Now I would like to pose that question to the ladies if they read this thread....  WHY are you still single? Though my single days are numbered, I remained single after my divorce some years ago out of choice.  Not because I wasn\'t meeting really nice or eligible Black men, but because I knew that I was not ready to devote myself fully into a permanent relationship again.  I knew that after going through the pain of divorce, that I needed to work through personal issues and be sure that I didn\'t walk around with a big \"men ain\'t shyt\" chip on my shoulder... so I didn\'t subject anyone to that attitude.  Instead, I devoted that time to healing ME and accepting my part in our failed marriage - learning how not to repeat the same mistakes.  At that time also, taking care of my daughter and earning a living, keeping a roof over our heads, etc., without any assistance, was my a top priority.  I didn\'t think it would be fair to my partner to enter into a marriage unless I was prepared to commit for life and put him first (as he would me).
Over the years I received sincere proposals that I am now glad that I declined.  Being single, for me, was a good thing because it allowed me to focus on what was best for my life.  It allowed me to truly understand, improve, and accept who I am without compromise.  I learned how to be alone without being lonely (which was a VERY big thing for someone raised in a VERY large family).  I embraced my \"singledom!\" then, but now that season has passed and I am moving forward to a lifetime commitment...
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« Reply #3 on: September 21, 2001, 09:59:00 am »
I am almost in my mid-twenties and I am still somehow single. You may say I have plenty of time to find a woman or I don\'t need a woman right now, but still, it hurts sometime when it seems like I am the only guy in social situations (i.e. the mall, coffee shops, Wal-Mart) who doesn\'t have a girlfriend right now.
Back in high school, I was the one guy who girls have ran away from point A to point B because they did not want their girl friends to see her talking to me. Also, I was the one guy who the girls would talk about behind my back, girls would laugh and giggle at me whenever I walked by, and then when a girl was seen talking to me, their girl friends would laugh at her.
Fast forward to today, now that I have chosen to make a few adjustments in the clothes I wear (i.e. Abercrombie and Fitch, GAP, American Eagle, Polo, Ralph Lauren), and wearing color contacts (something I enjoy doing), I have come close many times to getting a girlfriend. Many young women are shocked today I do not have a girlfriend. So therefore, I do not have a girlfriend today is because I am too quiet, I am different from other Black men (I dress \"White\", and listen to groups such as Hendrix and Led Zeppelin as opposed to listening to degrading gangsta rap and sagging my pants), perhaps I am insecure in some areas like worrying about what people think about me or what I do, and of course, the classic rejections I get because I\'m too nice.
I believe Mr. Realgem said something about older women giving him a lot of love and respect more than women his age. This applies to me also. Most women who do appreciate a guy like me are ages 30 and up, are happily married, and have two or three kids. Because of this, I am considering persuing dating relationships with older women about 27 to maybe age 32. Do you think that\'s wise?
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Indigo_Rhayne

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« Reply #4 on: September 26, 2001, 07:16:00 pm »
I\'m single because I\'m not in love.....yet...
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cool breeze

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« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2001, 06:33:00 am »
quote:Originally posted by BlkGeisha:
 I am still single because the man I want to marry is not ready yet, plain and simple.
BlkGeisha
I hope you ain\'t talkin\' about DocNasty, BlkGeisha!!       That cat will never be ready to settle down!!
Just kidding, BlkGeisha!!  
[This message has been edited by cool breeze (edited 09-27-2001).]
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Keba

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« Reply #6 on: October 17, 2001, 12:47:00 am »
Men aren\'t the problem for me.  There\'s plenty enough of them, so it\'s me.  I\'m always meeting nice men but I keep my distance from them.  
The reason I\'m single is because I\'m not quite ready to be in a relationship yet. I would like to grow some more and iron out some wrinkles in my life before getting involved with that special man.  Sometimes I lose patient with myself because of this, but reality sets in and I\'m reminded that there isn\'t anything I can do about it now - I\'m just not ready.  On the brighter side, since my divorce, I can see the headway I\'ve made in becoming ready for a relationship.  [This message has been edited by Keba (edited 10-16-2001).]
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africando

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« Reply #7 on: October 22, 2001, 03:32:00 am »
Finding someone you want who wants you is a daunting task.
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Mr. Realgem

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« Reply #8 on: September 17, 2001, 04:46:00 pm »
Ms. Heartbeat,
Yes, Mid-October sounds good. More specifically, sometime during the 2nd week in October would be great. Keep me posted!
Mr. Realgem
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Aphrodite64

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« Reply #9 on: September 21, 2001, 12:16:00 pm »
Archangel--that may work for you.  Seems as soon as I turned 30, I am 37 now, all the guys that asked me out were young.  Current boyfriend is 31, a very mature, quiet, oriented-to home & career kind of guy and he suits me fine.
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Ms HeartBeat

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« Reply #10 on: September 21, 2001, 01:39:00 pm »
CoolBreeze:
Choo Choo! Let me know when you chug into town dude.  I am one of the fearless few about to board a plane next Friday to Miami. And thank you for the invite to dinner... that is so gracious of you.  Spending time with a real gentleman, I might not know how to act!
Mr. RealGem:
I return to town the 8th.  I\'ll drop you a line and we can set something up then.
DocNasty:
No comment.
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Starchild

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« Reply #11 on: September 21, 2001, 05:04:00 pm »
LOL!!!  Ms. HB, why DocNasty can\'t get no play???    
Archangel---be cool bruh, everything will work out for you.  Trust me, there are lots of women who have compatible interests/tastes to you---you just gotta put yourself into the right places/situations to find them.
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tranquility68

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« Reply #12 on: September 21, 2001, 10:29:00 pm »
I\'m still single cause ain\'t nobody asked me to marry them! (he,he,he)
Sike - but REALLY...I have two small kids and in the past the one guy I got serious with had three of his own (can we say Brady Bunch)!! LOL.  It\'s been so hard for me to find a brother with a past as closed and together as mine.  Yes, my kid\'s father loves his kids, but what me and him had is over and neva to return...I get tired of explainin to dudes that just cause he\'s involved with his kids does NOT mean he\'s involved with me.
Also, like Sheel, though I was never married, it was a big deal that we broke up and couldn\'t work it out, I needed time to myself to do me and get myself together as well as give my kids time to adjust to Mommy and Daddy not being together and seeing him every other weekend.  I didn\'t want to bring some dude into the mix whilst all of that was going on.  
It\'s been three years now and the kids and I have adjusted well to our new neighborhood and new lifestyle (just us).  However, I\'m talking to a gentleman now that I really, really dig, but treading a little lightly all the same.  If it were just me we\'d probably be moving a lot faster, but it\'s not just about me, and he understands that thankfully.
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Canonet

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« Reply #13 on: September 22, 2001, 11:17:00 am »
Interesting posts here.
  Like some of the posters, I have run into Black women who have had bad experiences with Black men and expect me to be as bad as their formers. One was mad withme for what others have done to her! I\'m 35 yrs old and feel I\'m an interesting person but many women see superficial stuff that matters little in the long run: clothes, how \'foine\' he is, the car, the job.
    ALso, one thing that bothers me as well are women who need to date 3-4 at a time. I\'m not a horse and do not wish to be kept in a
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BlkGeisha

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« Reply #14 on: September 26, 2001, 06:22:00 pm »
Ms Heartbeat asked so I will give my answer, I am still single because the man I want to marry is not ready yet, plain and simple.
I have a very clear picture of who I would marry and why I would marry him, the qualities he would possess everything. He also actually walks on this earth as an intact man LOL.
I am at the point in my life where I believe I have met the man I will marry, and if we don\'t I doubt I will marry. I have done alot of growing personally, I have matured emotionally, resolved some old issues, put to bed and tucked in, never to be awakened again problems and just become a better person for me in the past year, because I choose to try to love me better before I could expect anyone else to. So I am single by choice and circumstance.
BlkGeisha
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