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I was wondering what is good town/city where interracial relationships are kinda accepted.I mean I know IR couples will always have problems where ever they go but I\'m looking to relocate some time soon. I was wondering where should I start to look.  Also, I just got out of relationship and I was wondering where a good place to meet interesting white men also.  Just let me know...I grew up in New Mexico and that was ok but I want to get aways from there.  

Lyric, if you want to find an area that is very comfortable with regards to IR, California is the place to be, specifically the Bay Area.  Even Sacramento, where i live, just had an article in the paper recently, discussing how many mixed race children they have here (quite a few more than most people might think).I\'ve never had any problems in this area, and you will find that most people here don\'t even give IR a second look, they\'re so common.Good luck in your search!Mofete

lyricThe way you stated that you want to meet interesting White men gives off the impression that you only want to date them.  I think that\'s where folks are getting the impression that you\'re limiting yourself.If you come east, I can tell you that the New England area, including Boston, is not a good place.  In Boston, the segregation is bad enough, but many folks here also have segregated mindsets.  It\'s one of the main reasons I\'m ready to leave this area after living here the first nearly 23 years of my life (though I\'ll be here for a few more years before that happens).If you want to come east, New England isn\'t the spot... and I\'ve heard that Philadelphia is about as segregated as Boston, which has cooled my desire to possibly settle there.

HI Lyric     Thank you for your reply. The only thing I was simply saying was you made a statement and could not explain it. If so, then it must make no sense to you if you can\'t elaborate. Then why say it? If you like white guys, then there must be a reason. Example, if people like a certain food it\'s because of the taste. A certain car because they\'ve had great service from the brand in the past. No one likes something \'just because\' Lyric. I like photography, printing and processing black and white (hence the username), because I like the emotions photographs bring out of people. It\'s truly an art when master it. Especially the printing end of it. Pictures are TRULY worth a thousand words.      When people make choices, there\'s usually a reason. When people break up in relationships, it\'s not \'just because\', there\'s a reason. See my point? If you do not know why you do or like someone/something,  then why do it? I have no personal beef against you, Lyric, but be able to explain yourself when you make statements such as yours in a public forum if asked. If I\'ve angered you, I\'m sorry but I bet you\'ve had few to ask why you do something. You;re an adult so there\'s a reason behind what you do.   About IRs in my area? They\'re slowly picking up here. Mostly white men  with asian women but BM/WW and BW/WM numbers are rising. I would not choose my area because housing costs are rising and wages are not keeping up. I\'m in the RTP area in North Carolina. Mostly here, its Black people looking for white mates insead of whites looking for black mates.  

Hi Lyric   Read some of your posts here and wondering  when you relocate what if you met an attractive Black guy who was quite much in all you wanted in a man? Would you exclude him because he\'s black because of your preference in only white men? That would not be too kind plus you would be limting yourself when you declared you\'re not doing so. Why not concentrate on getting a decent job  after college. instead of chasing down men for relationships. A place where you may seek an IR might not have the job you want.        I have met some sisters who will have  thought a Black man may be kind to them and what they want but because not white, they\'re not good enough for them. I hope you are not doing that when you say \'I only have a preference of white men only.\'  What do you think, Lyric?  Please say morethan \'because I want to\" .That\'s a weak reason

Lyonel, you know i\'ve never thought about going north or that far north.  It\'s funny that you say Minnisota too becaue I really figured IR would be worse up there. I guess that\'s the south.  Mofete, thanks understaning.  I really don\'t understand why people have to question other poeple either.  If your happy doing what you want and it\'s not doing nothing to me then like you said more power to you.  Canonet, I still don\'t know what you\'re wanting me to say.  I don\'t know if you\'re wanting me to agree with you or say black men are the best men on the earth.  Well, I\'m not agree with you.  I think i\'ve told you that i prefer white men.  I always have and i probably will.  I\'m sorry to tell you this but it\'s because I WANT TO.  I\'m sorry that\'s not good enough for you but that\'s all it comes down too again.  I know many black men that are attractive and are intelligent. I never said a black man isn\'t good enough for me either.  Like Mofete said don\'t take it personal.  I know i\'ve said this MANY times, it\'s not about you or any black man or any other man. It\'s about me and WHAT I WANT.  I\'m not going to think on the same page as you becasue we see things so differently.  Oh, I almost forgot. I ask the question how the interracial scene is other city (where white men aren\'t afraid to talk to black women).  You know I can go anywhere I want, I have that freedom.  I can get a job in almost any region. I want to get a good job just like anyone.  I want to go somewhere I can be happy. I haven\'t been to many areas in the US, so that\'s why I ask how it is in yours.  So you date all the black women you want    and fun while you\'re doing it.  There are so many black women that think there is a \"GOOD BLACK MAN\" shortage.  Well i\'m one less person they don\'t have to worry about.  

Okay, my two cents:For starters, a preference does not mean dating exclusively.  If I prefer Black women, it does not mean I exclusively date them or will only date them.  It simply means that I\'ll date anyone, but would like to date a Black woman.That said, my issue on this topic comes when the line is crossed- when it isn\'t a preference any more and is really exclusive dating practice, which is racist by definition since race is a direct factor.The fact is that we\'re all individuals and to judge whether or not someone is a suitable mate based on race simply makes no sense.Lyonel: I must admit to being surprised that you would go to Minnesota if in an IR couple; that\'s one of the last places I\'d go if I was in one!  (Of course, I wouldn\'t want to live there anyway because I hate the cold, and I\'ve had enough of it over my years as a lifelong resident of Chelsea, MA.)

LyricDon\'t worry about me taking back what I said.  I meant it.  There is a difference between having a preference and having exclusive dating practices- as in, there\'s a difference between preferring to date a White man and refusing to date anyone who isn\'t White.  And this is regardless of anyone\'s race; if I would only date White women (and refuse to date any woman who isn\'t White) or Black women (and refuse to date any woman who isn\'t Black) it\'s no different.  It\'s still racist either way, because race is playing a role and it shouldn\'t at all.For me, this extends further- as in, I don\'t want to date anyone who will \"only date White guys\".  I would date someone who wants to date me for me, not because I\'m White.