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Mr Sincere

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« on: July 16, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
If I was to start a topic to find out how women think.....this is how I would go about it.   So ladies if you can,  please answer.Question#1.   Why do many short women ( let\'s say 5\'5\" and below ) exclusively date men much taller  (let\'s say 6ft+) than they are,  even though the average guy with average height ( 5\'6\"+ ) is still taller than she is?Whats wrong or the reason why they wouldnt give the guy who is average height a chance?
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Simon

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« Reply #1 on: July 16, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
What a vindictive little \"man\" you are.Intead of showing \"your\" example in the previously mentioned topic and then answering the question, you do this. And since SITM\'s topic was for general information on mens thoughts, you example is not quite appropriate.Oh, how disappointed I am in you.
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Mr Sincere

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« Reply #2 on: July 17, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
\"So simply, stop being so defensive and vindictive and maybe you just might be \"heard\" a little better. Cuz, with ya current method you are losing the people who once thought you actually had worthwhile opinions.\" \"Remember a double edged sword cuts both ways.\"Mr Sincere: Simon,  I was never concerned over losing anybody.     I never thought I had a following in the first place.  This must be another one of your ASSumptions again of my intent.   You cant lose anybody you never had.And whats a double-edged sword if only one person can pick it up to swing it. You see....your having much trouble trying to swing that heavy sword yourself.  But the reason you cant cut me down,  is because I\'m not feeling no anger or vindictiveness back towards you.    But , I dont really blame you for trying.....I might do the same if my anger got the best of me for getting slammed and exposed for blundering like the way you keep doing. So Simon ,  please continue to respond....and feel free to vent as much as you feel is needed.  I want you to get it all out and feel better.    Here\'s some advice.....if you decided to stop seeing me as an enemy and an object of contempt right now.....your anger and frustration will melt instantly.  I guarantee you\'ll thank me ,  if you take heed.
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philnation

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« Reply #3 on: July 18, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
MS asked a question I\'ve often thought about and that I\'ve asked a few women.  Needless to say, I\'ve never really received much of an answer from any of them.This cuts to more of the double standard in current discussion of male-female relationship issues.  The fact that a lot of women I\'ve known will only date men above a certain height has certainly affected my chances with quite a few women since, at 5\'8 1/2\", I\'m not tall by most folks\' definition of the word.  It\'s also been a reason why this bothers me.The double standard I alluded to:I have been present at many discussions where folks talk about how superficial many men were with regard to who they date.  I\'ve seen men painted as caring only about how a woman looks and not caring about who she is as a person during these discussions.  Men in general get bashed because a few guys will only date women with specific physical characteristics (usually, it\'s about some men who only date women who are pencil-thin or have some other feature(s)).Yet, I cannot recall a single time when folks talked about women who will only date men who are at least a certain height.  In most of the aforementioned discussions, folks often act like women are such angels in the dating game and don\'t discriminate in any way.Needless to say, that\'s certainly not my experience.Why is it that many folks are quick to chastise men who won\'t date a woman who \"has a little meat on her\", but don\'t say two words to women who won\'t date a guy because he\'s \"just 5\'11\" \"?  This might be a tad off-topic, but it is related to what MS brought up.(Hopefully, the catfight that\'s ensued here will end, Simon.)
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Mr Sincere

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« Reply #4 on: July 18, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Phil.....for the record.....you or anyone can address and question or present the focus you want to discuss.    The main headline of this topic is \"Women, How do ya\'ll think?\"As long as it is under that blanket,  dont worry about following the thread, just present your thoughts.To tell you the truth.....since I created this topic, Phil.....the main thing that I think is important is we discuss issues that dont very little attention.   Whether or not women care to offer input is another story.   It really doesnt matter,  because the goal isnt to make anybody change their thinking anyway.But,  I do have a recollection from many other boards I\'ve been on,   that many women show that they dont like to see men picking apart and analyzing things that women do.   Look how one poster is already acting.....she thinks this topic was created out of vindictiveness.   But when the women were inquiring about men....we were supposed to be assured that there was nothing to suspect with the way the topic was presented .So if there arent many responses by women ,   dont be too surprised. There just might be a double standard we may have overlooked.  That it\'s okay to give feedback ,  but dont ask for anything in return.    That\'s the way many doomed from the start relationships operate.
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Pebbles

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« Reply #5 on: July 19, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Hi EverybodyMr. Sincere, I\'ll  try to answer the question simple and honestly...Because, yes I am guilty of dating men who are 6ft and above(my husband is 6\'3\")...I am 5\'6\" and I have never dated a guy who was shorter than 6\'...I don\'t know if this is a psychological thing or not...Because my best girlfriend is 5\'10.5\" and she always had trouble attracting men who were over 6\'... For myself, I think that I am subconsciously choosing to date tall men because of the security factor...I feel much more secure and protected with a man much taller and bigger than me...It seem like a taller man also seem to be dating shorter women because of the same reasons...they feel less intimidated by a short woman...
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« Reply #6 on: July 19, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
I see your point of double standard and how women are always getting mad at men for picking them apart, such as the topic I posted about physical appearance...But I think the assumption is, it is the man with all the power when it comes to relationship...which is absolutely FALSE! The reason why I added my .02 cents to this discussions is because my older brother is 5\'9\" and I have noticed that most of the women he dated and the woman he eventually married were/are all his height or slightly taller than him... My bestfriend who is very tall by society standard for a woman, also dated mostly men the same height or slightly taller...this girlfriend just recently married, and her husband is probably 5\'11\", but she looks taller than him when she wears s****...By the way, I do feel guilty now...because when I was in College and HS, I rebuffed quite a few fellows who were not at least 5\'10\", I did not do it intentionally, but I guess psychologically this partner did not fit my idea companion...that tall, dark, and handsome stereotype...PS:These are only my ideas,,, they may sound naive...
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Simon

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« Reply #7 on: July 21, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
B-Now didn\'t I tell you an honest man, does it for me. So if I proposed to anybody, you\'d be the man. :-)
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Simon

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« Reply #8 on: July 21, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
P-cynical.In most relationships we had or have indicators of what the person is about. It\'s up to us to pay attention to them.In my opinion, one is hardly ever taken advantage of, somewhere we allow it to happen. We choose not to see the truth. Meaning, when a situation comes up that we don\'t like, was it dealt with or passed on?Anywhere if we didn\'t agree to a situation we didn\'t like, but kept silent, then we didn\'t oppose it either. I believe we create our own experiences. It\'s up to us to make sure those experience are beneficial ones.
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« Reply #9 on: July 21, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Simon,\"In my opinion, one is hardly ever taken advantage of, somewhere we allow it to happen. We choose not to see the truth. Meaning, when a situation comes up that we don\'t like, was it dealt with or passed on?Anywhere if we didn\'t agree to a situation we didn\'t like, but kept silent, then we didn\'t oppose it either.\"I feel this way too and to me in most cases this can be true.  Now there are some cases where this does not apply.  There are truly some people who have unknowingly been taken advantage of, but in most cases, this is not the case. I believe what you\'re saying is take responsibility for your decisions/choices and we should realize that we are making a decision/choice whenever we keep silent as well.  We create our own experiences through the decisions/choices we make.Mr. Sincere,In regards to your topic/question, I would think it has to do with the woman\'s preference.  I for one prefer men taller than myself because, through conditioning, I was \"led\" to believe that men should be taller than the women so that she can look up to him and I\'m sure a sense of security has something to do with it as well.  Now, I know that just because a man is tall does not guarantee me security or that I can look up to him with respect because the man\'s personality would take precedence in being the deciding factor for determining whether this man is a quality brother.
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« Reply #10 on: July 22, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
MS, I am 5\'6\" - 5\'7\", and my son\'s father is 5\'5\"...however, I don\'t discriminate...I love and have dated men of all shapes, heights and complexions...hell, I love black men!
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« Reply #11 on: July 22, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Well, I am only 5\'2 1/2 and of course, I would want a man taller than me.  I don\'t know I like all heights and complexions.  I don\'t mean to discriminate, but hey I am short, alittle height doesn\'t it hurt, does it?
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« Reply #12 on: July 22, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
MS, yall could be so crazy at times you got me tripping especially you with the insults I never thought you would stoop so low.As for your answer to the topic, well I\'m 5\'1 1/2 and I don\'t set out for men taller they just happen to be.  And, I feel as a woman everyone has their own perference on whom they\'re attracted to especially if they are on the tall side.
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Mr Sincere

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« Reply #13 on: July 22, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
RL,  you seem to be implying that Mr Sincere was being insulting?To who and to what are you refering to,  because I\'d like to know why are you tripping over something that may not even concern you?     You mean what you read is affecting you personally?     I dont believe people here even know each other or have seen each other for that matter,  so how can you get insulted, by someone who doesnt know you?The only reason I can see people feeling insulted by typed words , when dealing with people you dont know,  is when people associate and identify with what is being said.    And sometimes an opinion can hurt just as much as the truth because of their own insecurities, not because someone insulted them.So if your appalled or tripping over this..and it probably doesnt even concern you...I guess you are pretty susceptible to being insulted by anything.  
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Simon

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« Reply #14 on: July 22, 1999, 03:00:00 am »
Don\'t hate, becuase you aren\'t my type. I can\'t help if I like honest men. Don\'t give up yourself though, you might yourself being one...someday! Remember: you can\'t fix that which you do not acknowledge.You vindictive little \"man\" you.
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