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ool macs

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Why do people get jealous
« on: May 30, 2001, 08:18:00 am »
Since jealousy is as natural as happiness and anger, I beleive that it can be a sign that it is either the wrong time in your life for the relationship, or that the person isn\'t right for you.  
 
The reason I say this is; if you were in a relationship where your feelings were always anger or sadness, you\'d leave it. I beleive Jealousy is no different, and that when you meet that person where there is almost instant full trust, then you know you\'ve found the right person.  
 
I am currently in a situation where I think I may have found that person, but they are currently out of reach... Despite the distance between us, I have never had a single jealous thought, even when she was seeing someone else. The only way I can explain it is finding complete happiness and knowing that everything will come out perfect in the end.

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« Reply #1 on: May 31, 2001, 09:51:00 am »
I don\'t desire to control the life of the other person, you lost me there Big E, how does that have anything to do with level of caring? I\'ve been jealous in the past with other girlfriends, In hindsight, I realized that I would be much happier with someone that I would never even suspect of cheating. I guess you\'ll just have to wait until you meet someone like that, you\'ll be amazed how much clearer your head is!
 
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« Reply #2 on: June 14, 2001, 11:40:00 pm »
I think that the most important thing is to know that the reason for your jeolousy is that you love the person and don\'t want to loose them to someone else.  There is those individuals that use jealousy as a means of control over another person.  
 
What do you think?

inema

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« Reply #3 on: December 06, 2001, 07:27:00 am »
For me, jealousy is about attention.  I crave my girl\'s attention.  I know I won\'t lose her, so it\'s not about that.  I guess perhaps control would be a part of it.
 
When I see her talking to other people (especially guys) I feel a little wounded and I get a primitive instinct to draw her attention to myself (although I can usually control or at least postpone it).
 
For me it\'s definitely about attention.

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« Reply #4 on: May 10, 2002, 02:37:00 am »
Jealousy, in my opinion, results from caring about a person and not wanting to loose them and feeling insecure about oneself and inadequate.  However, it becomes really unheathly when you don\'t trust your significant other and want to control their life.  Just because you get in a relationship with somebody doesn\'t mean that you both stop talking to all of your friends of the opposite sex.  If jealousy is a major issue for you, maybe you should hold off on being in a relationship for a while.  

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« Reply #5 on: May 25, 2001, 05:31:00 pm »
Is jealousy a sign of insecurity or is it the fact that the person is trying to control the person they are in love with.  People often become jealous for reasons that are not valid for example if the guy or girl goes out for a coffee with a member of the opposite sex and automatically there is a feeling of jealousy or is it insecurity reply to this with your idea\'s............

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« Reply #6 on: May 31, 2001, 11:47:00 pm »
My point exactly.....

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« Reply #7 on: August 27, 2001, 03:58:00 pm »
Im in this situation right now as we speak my gf has a guy freind that she goes out with...and im not jelous..
i get mad when she breaks off plans with me to do stuff with him...she says that she relates with guy friends better that girl friends....what should i do??? i love her too much to lose her ..and thats what happened to my las relationship i lost a girl to another guy that she hung out with!!

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