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Thought I had wised up in the last 8 months. Im afraid I might have made a mistake though.

A few people know my story already. For those who don\'t Ill run through real quick. Ex-girl friend broke up with me, started seeing another guy. I took it way to hard. A few times I think she came back to test me, see if she wanted me back. I quit talking to her completely. Turned around, a complete 180, I dated lots of girls. Now the only feelings I have when I think of her is anger. I also sorta feel like shes my property, which isn\'t right but its a hard feeling to let go.

Ok, before we broke up my ex use to get mad at me because me and her friends/roomates flirted harmlessly. It wasn\'t a big deal they all had boyfriends which were my friends too, so I hardly even noticed that I was flirting. Anyway my ex broke up with me, and her whole group of friends also dumped their boyfriends. I am not sure what the hell that was about, but within 3 weeks all four of them had broke up with their boyfriends. It pretty much destroyed the circle of friends I usually hung out with. So we all fell out of touch. Anyway I started hanging out with the guys again, every now and then.

Well anyway I went to the bar a few days ago and one of her roomates was there. I ended up quite drunk, and also ended up kissing this girl a few times. She was sober, so she knew exactly what was going on and the consquences. I wasn\'t really thinking about them.

The problem is she is my ex\'s roomate, and my friend dated this girl for four years. If one of them finds out, it is certain that the other will know within a few hours. Neither will be happy. Even though my ex left me, it hurt her to see me with other people. But seeing me with her friend, a friend i use to flirt with while I was in a relationship, will set my ex off im sure. I don\'t really care about my ex, **** her, but my guy friend would absolutely hate me. Of course this girl doesn\'t want anyone to find out.

I do like her though, I always liked her. This is probably the biggest problem, because I dont know what to do next. I don\'t wana stab this guy in the back, at the same time encouraging this group of girls behavior. Would it really be stabbing him in the back though? I don\'t really hang out with him much and its been awhile since they broke up. Let me reiterate, fuck my ex, she doesn\'t deserve any consideration as far as I am concerned.

Well I need someone brilliant to straighten this out. That story may sound kind of confusing, its very late, if anything seems out of place ill clear it up in the morning.

Brian

I think you\'re going to have to stand tall and have your fifteen minutes of fame being the leader. If your guy friend doesn\'t like the fact that you\'re going out with her, then tell him that their relationship is over and while you do understand that he might still have feelings for her, there\'s no way that he should tell you who you can go out with, who you can be with, etc.

If you really don\'t care about your ex, don\'t waste another word talking about her.  If the person that you like doesn\'t want other people to know, I think that\'s impossible. Sooner or later, someone is going to clue in that if you are spending a lot of time with her that you are interested in being more than just friends. Just take everything slowly and stand your ground. There are times to be strong and unforgiving, and IMHO this is the time.

So, this is one of the girls that dumped her ex because her friends did the same? Some relationship... but who knows, she probably grew out of that, given the whole upturn.

Dave pretty much gave you the lowdown, so this is yet another of my short-ass threads with nothing much new to add...

But one thing I\'d like to add is that her attitude towards it is differnt from yours. Your attitude: \"fuck the ex! she can keep shoving that pineapple up her loose pussy, for all I care!\"

Her attitude: \"oh man, i don\'t want anyone to find out...\" Do you think you would be able to have an honest and mature relationship with someone who wants to keep it a secret, from fear that her friends and her ex will find out? And dave also got it right on when pointing out that your ex is still going to be talking to her, and who knows what will happen... I mean, she IS the reason she broke up with her ex (your friend) to begin with...

Kuky
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Im gona use my head, not my heart on this one. Im not going to pursue her anymore. To begin with I already resent her because she is part of the reason me and my ex broke up. Not to mention she was very manipulative of her ex. She actually tried to manipulate every one she met. She would never be able to manipulate me, no one can have that power over me again. If she even tried I would have to laugh, no telling what she would do then.

I haven\'t talked to her since this post, because Ive been out of town. When/If I do, Ill set her straight.

*Sigh*

Where are all the good women at, damnit. Hunny you need to come to my college next year.

Im serious though, I get out there and meet all sorts of women, but none of them come close to meeting my standards. Hell most of them dont meet ANY of my standards. I\'ve had a bunch of flings, but there was no question of whether I would take those flings into a relationship.

Fuck it all this is hard.

Hunny: He would get all bent out of shape. They were together for four years, and that was his first girlfriend. I dunno if you can get used to anything. There are some things I don\'t want to have to get use to. If I was in his shoes, I\'d be pissed at me too. Guess that makes me a nice guy or something. Most people are so selfish they wouldn\'t even consider things like that. Yes it is the titty shot one.


Kucky: \"**** the ex! she can keep shoving that pineapple up her loose pussy, for all I care!\"
Brillant, colorful, more than I wana know. Kuky out does himself again.

Dave: I don\'t really like her that much. Probably not worth the trouble. You know Im over the ex. What really pisses me off, is I want her to come acknowledge her mistake. She made an unforunate mistake, she dropped the best person she could ever get. Im not cocky, I do know my self-worth, and I know how many other jackasses there are in the world.

Oh, Fuck it all! Im going to sleep.

Brian

you will most likely never get her to admit her mistake.  first she\'d have to believe it herself, and somewhat like my ex, i am sure she will do whatever is necessary to prove to herself she did the right thing.  women like these have even less self esteem and confidence than \"nice\" guys.  

don\'t worry though, much like my ex i guaruntee she will wonder \"what if\" and feel guilty.  And it will help f*ck up every other relationship she will ever be in.

Girls (or people in general) like this will always be miserable.  They are only comfortable when they have drama in their lives.


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Moonangel, why do you attract all the assholes? There are good guys out there, I swear it, but you gota look for yourself instead of letting the guys come one to you.

Yea hunny Id like ya to come to clemson, but you don\'t need to do titty shots.

Well Dave she pretty much admitted it to me already. The words never came directly out like I want, but when she calls me at wierd random times to tell me about how miserable her life is since she left me you gota know shes thinking about something.

Well the last couple of nights I have been talking to this girl I was friends with in highschool. She always had a crush on me throughout all of highschool, most people back then thought we were a couple. I never dated her though because she came on way to strong. I\'ve been thinking about that ALOT lately. She is absolutely beautiful, and extremely nice. Truthfully I got no ****ing idea why I didn\'t date her, I always regretted it. Im suppose to go out with this girl in a week. Wish me luck.

Brian

Good luck Hatlicks.



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