<sigh> This is the first time I\'ve posted here, usually I\'m just in the flirting section... oh well.
I just had a three-week romance with a guy I met in Europe. I thought he really cared for me; we had even decided to try a long-distance relationship. To my surprise, he even told me he loved me the night before I left for the US.
So we emailed each other for a week, and everything was fine, but then he told me he felt that any long-distance relationship was ultimately doomed (especially since we didn\'t even know when we would see each other again!) and that we should \"stop the damage here.\"
Now, if I had slept with him, then I would have thought that he had just been using me the whole time. But I didn\'t, and I really feel that what we had was real.
I understood what he was saying, of course; the distance is a hard thing to get over; so I was really sweet and said, well, I\'m crushed, but I understand, and we can still be friends, right?
But he said no. It would be too painful for him, it would just be a second-best thing for me, he could never pretend that nothing happened, etc. The last time I heard from him (a week and a half ago) he said \"I think I still love you.\"
I\'m confused... if he really loves me, why did he shoot himself in the foot by dumping me? If he\'s over me, then why does he mind being friends, unless he doesn\'t like me as a person? I\'m thinking about waiting a while and then sending him a short, friendly email - maybe in a month? - and seeing if he feels any better about it.
Any comments guys? I\'m just confused right now, and babbling... thanks for any help!
~Copper
