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Well, my answers are kind of screwed up so I\'m only going to answer number two because it\'s an issue with me.

2. how often do you see your bf/gf a week, and how long is too long, in regards to not seeing them?

We used to go to the same school and see eachother each day and do stuff on weekends. The summer after graduation started off all right, but as it progressed he got busier and busier and I would talk to him once a week on average and see him every two weeks or more. It was really difficult for me because I like to stay up to date on what\'s going on with the people I care about, and I couldn\'t do that. It seemed he was too busy to call me or anything. I talked to him a couple times and it didn\'t do much good. Now we go to different schools...I talked to him about a week ago and saw him about...2 1/2 weeks ago. The most ironic thing about this whole spiel is that his house is within walking distance of mine! Sorry for rambling, it probably wasn\'t helpful.

The moral of the story is: It is good to take breaks and healthy to not see eachother each day, but when it gets to the point that you have no idea what\'s going on in their life, that\'s not good. I think you should at least have a vague idea of how they\'re doing. I think relationships require time and effort, so keep that in mind.

Sorry about that, I had to ramble some.
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Well, I\'m single now, but that won\'t stop me frrom commenting .

1. would you turn down doing something fun with your friends to do something with your bf/gf, if you\'ve already said yes to your friends beforehand? if yes, how long have you been with your bf or gf.

That depends on the special circumstances. If my gf is leaving on vacation for a month or something, then I will never turn her down, cause there will be a month after anyway... but then again, if that is the case, then we will have made plans long before my friends come to me .

But otherwise, if I made plans, then I made plans. Besides, no gf of mine would be so controlling as to expect me to interrupt something... But given my friends, if my gf wants to, then she can always come along, and will always be invited to do so once plans with friends are made... I like it when everyone gets along .

2. how often do you see your bf/gf a weel,  and how long is too long, in regards to not seeing them?

I will assume it\'s summer, so the question of \"same school?\" is off. In that case, we would make some bigger plans well in advance, and polish off the details as we go on... Of course, every now and then, we would see one another after work or whatever, and go out or just relax. There\'s no set rule, and no one should obsess about whether it\'s too early or too late. Once you get a comfortable flow going in the relationship, it really shouldn\'t be an issue anymore.

3. is one of you more inclinded to call the other, like, does he always call you or does she always call you?

Again, once the flow settles in, that won\'t matter. Just be comfortable with each other, no matter how it\'s done. In my experience, both called equally often.

4. do you treat your bf/gf EXACTLY like your friends, in that if they don\'t call for some reason, you know that somethings come up and everything is still cool?

Well, since I am only interested in long term, well-founded relationships, my gf would pretty much BE a really close friend before the romantic aspect of the relationship. The rest is really natural progression to me... So, all the cuddly stuff that goes on actually has meaning to it. Now, as far as the not calling goes, I\'d eventually call her anyway, and then we would talk, should the need arise... but then again, I will always call my good friends periodically anyway...

Ok, so I am tempted to move this to the Dating Zone. You asked the question with a worried-about-breaking-up tone, though, so please elaborate on that a little .

Kuky
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I\'m also single now, but I\'ll voice my opinion anyway.

1.  No, that is not fair to your friends or you.  Try to always keep your plans b/c people will view you as responsible and trustworthy.
2.  I saw my b/f practically everyday.  The longest was 12 days b/c of a 12-day trip to Florida (where I stayed with his grandparents).
3.  He called me mostly
4.  Practically.

But don\'t take any of this to heart b/c we are no longer \'us\'.
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