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This has to be like every guy\'s nightmare, not just losing a loved one to another guy, but..to another woman...

Long story short met this chick, things clicked from the start. 2 weeks go by, during which we pretty much got to know one another real well. I thought she was amazing, beautiful etc and as much as I don\'t see why she thought I was great. Then couple days ago she started talking less and when I mentioned coming to see her(we live some states away) she didn\'t like the idea. I then found out that she is in a relationship already...but..with another woman..Now I\'m open minded and am pro choice, I\'ve had gay friends b4 but this made me like sick to my stomach..

What hurts the most is, one we never had anything to get going but were friends, but leading me on for several weeks and not telling me something this big...

Any suggestions, advice, whatnot. Im pretty much losing faith in the women of the world, like the last 12 odd something women Ive met there is something stopping them from a relationship, either they aren\'t ready for one, too busy with careers or college or in this last case, lesbianism...

nice guys finish last, dead last...
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Well, she didn\'t string me along on purpose I believe but it still sucks. From what little I understand of women, she showed all the signs of at least some interest and the fact that she said she felt like $hit for just leading me on and not out right telling me. It just pisses me off that all she had to say from the start was \"im involved with someone\" and thats all i would have needed to know and I woulda backed off, back into every guy\'s favorite place \"the friend zone\"...

And yes we\'ve both talked about what we\'d want in the future, college\'s, careers, etc I didn\'t sense anything like this coming into the picture...

Needless to say, I now understand why so many guys turn gay, women like this, irony at its best.
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Don\'t get up faith on women!  

Look, I\'m sorry about finding out...But be glad you did now,
so you can go on and find someone, maybe someone closer to home as well. I just hope you won\'t give up faith cause...I almost did on the whole male race and that would just be a mistake...
Good luck
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Hey, if I were in your shoes, I\'d be pretty happy, actually.  I mean, what better way is there to be turned down?  Like Sundown said, if she doesn\'t like anyone of the male gender, you KNOW it\'s not you.  Heck, if I found out that my ex was gay, I\'d be doing cartwheels out of joy.  But, as it is, he\'s straight as an arrow and I wasn\'t what he wanted--he lost his feelings for me, and is right now as I type this out with his guy friends at a (female) strip club, getting wasted, hitting on \"better\" prospects.  Yeah, it sucks that you had to find out after you started to like her, but the phrase \"it\'s not you, it\'s me\" is actually true in your case.  Be happy :-)

Chics don`t leave guys for other girls because of the guy. Sometimes they just find out that guys aren`t their thing.
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One of my good friends dated this crazy girl for about four years. They broke up like a year ago and shortly after she comes out and says she is gay. He was shocked.

By the way NEVER EVER compare someone like my friend to Ross on the TV show friend\'s, well at least when he can hear it. That really pissed him off.

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that happened to me. but with a guy, of course. i had completely and totally fallen for him, and the night i wanted to confess how i felt about him is the night he told me he was gay. we were 2000 miles away from each other when he told me and i was in SHOCK.

i\'m all for homosexual relationships, but, like you said, IT\'S INSANE when you find something like this out.

we\'re still good friends, and both of us are in relationships now, so it worked out for the best. but those first few weeks after i knew, i was just...crushed that i had no chance with him.
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Thanks for the replies folks.

And for that last guy, your just plain sick ok. Get your mind out of the gutter.
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